Many women complain that their husbands aren’t romantic. They don’t bring flowers other than to get out of trouble. They don’t take them to candle lit restaurants. They don’t hold hands anymore.

These are, in general, all true statements. But with the hectic lives we live these days who has time for romance.

We work, have kids and houses to take care of. Even when we think we might have a few moments something always comes up that puts an end to it.

For some men, romance is all about the bedroom. They think that it has to do with how many times a week a couple has sex. They think they are doing good if they spare 10 minutes twice a week “romancing” their wives or girlfriends before they pass out.

Women see things so differently. We want the date night and the chocolates, when we aren’t on a diet. We want the time together. And yes, sometimes the cuddling would be nice too.

What is romantic to women is a waste of money to men. They know that if they buy flowers for us, we will love them for it but that in a couple of days the flowers will be dead anyway. And they are afraid to buy you the chocolate because after you have eaten it you will be on some new diet and blaming them for giving you the 5 new pounds you just found.

What the men don’t see is that it really isn’t the gift that they bring. We would be just as happy if they brought home a movie, made popcorn and sat on the couch with us. It is about the time spent and the knowledge that they thought about us while they were getting the gift or picking out the movie.

I don’t think romance is truly dead. I think that it just hasn’t been used in so long that it has just been napping and wants to get up but doesn’t know how.

We need to teach our men how we want to be romanced. Each woman is different. What seems romantic to one may not to another. Flowers may be perfect for one but another may be allergic to them. A trip to the emergency room is not romantic at all.