There are several problems you might face when identifying and confronting a partner with this very serious character flaw – sex addiction. Take a look at some of them:

1. You mistake your partner's sexual obsession for overly sexual interest solely with you. It's easy, especially in the beginning of a relationship, to get seduced and flattered by a partner's excessive sexual interest, rather than seeing it for what it really is: obsession with sex — not with you.
2. Your partner makes you feel that your discomfort with his habits is "your problem" and that you have sexual hang-ups. There are many women who ask themselves if there is something wrong with them because they minded the fact that their partners wanted to have sex three times a day, or masturbated every morning in the shower, or watched porno films whenever they (the wives) left the house. Women who are used to being victims or to giving up their power often find themselves being told by their partners that they are too conservative, too frigid or too sexually boring, and that their concerns are totally unfounded. Well, to these women — wake up! There is nothing wrong with you, and what's not right is definitely with your mates.
3. You're embarrassed or frightened to confront the problem because you don't want to rock the boat. It's not easy to say, "Honey, I think you're a masturbation addict," or "Sweetheart, the fact that you have to watch those triple-X tapes to get turned on really scares me. And I won't put up with it anymore." However, if you don't face .the truth about your partner's sexual addictions, you can expect your relationship to be headed for disaster.

Know the negative effects a sexually obsessed partner will have on you.

• You'll feel "cheated on" by him because he needs something other than you to become aroused.
• You'll feel insecure about your body, your sexuality, and your ability to satisfy a partner.
• You'll feel emotionally distant from him during sex, as if he's not completely "there" with you.
• You'll feel sexually manipulated, used, and abused (if he demands to have sex three times a day) rather than loved.
• You'll feel angry and resentful toward him for not respecting your feeling.
• You'll eventually feel turned off to sex, since for you it has become associated with humiliation, control, and a feeling of inadequacy.

If your partner is willing to work on the problem, there is hope yet for your relationship. But if not, the best thing for you would be to get out while you still have some self-esteem left.