When you are in a relationship with someone communication is very important. The person that you are in a relationship with should be not only the person that you happen to be with intimately, but you should also feel as if they are your friend. When something is bothering you it is important that you have open enough communication with this person to be able to come to them with your worries. If you are in a relationship that is lacking in the communication department then the two of you should do everything that you can to fix that, it's a very important part of maintaining a healthy relationship.
One way of opening the lines of communication in your relationship is to first come to the person you are with and verbalize that there is a serious problem in the relationship that needs to be fixed before the relationship is destroyed. By coming at them this way and letting them know how serious of a situation it is, you will gain their attention and this will be the first victory in the battle of fixing the communication problems in the relationship.
When you are trying to open the lines of communication between your partner and yourself, you need to make sure that you are also open to the communication. When your partner comes to you with a concern you will want to listen to it and pay attention to it. Don't dismiss them and act as if their concerns aren't valid. When you do things like this you are shutting the door to the communication. Instead pay attention to them and respond in a respectable manner.
You will also want to make sure that when you are trying to talk with your partner that you approach them in a manner that shows them that you are wanting to talk without arguing. Be calm and rational as you bring up your concerns to them. It is never a good thing to come at them yelling and acting irrational, this will get the two of you nowhere.
You will also want to learn that timing is very important when it comes to bringing up certain topics to people and this includes your partner. You should know them well enough by now that you know when it is a bad time to bring up certain topics. By holding off until the tining is better you can stop a lot of unnecessary arguments and have more productive conversations.
